Dating someone whose divorce is not final
If your children are uncomfortable with what’s going on, they might not even want to spend time with you at first, and it’s not likely that a judge would force them.
Some states allow lawsuits for tort claims known as alienation of affection or criminal conversation.
These lawsuits are brought against individuals who become romantically involved with a married person, alleging that the involvement caused the breakup of the marriage.
It's possible that they'll become upset, but if that's the case, then having the conversation with them is even more important than it would have been if they'd been 100% supportive. Some divorced parents introduce their kids to all of their friends, without going into detail about the relationship.
This approach allows you to introduce your kids to anyone, and even bring them along on social outings, regardless of how serious the relationship is.
It may not matter if your relationship with a new partner is not sexual.